Parenting Cheat Sheet — 11 Helpful Tips!

Developing effective discipline methods for children and teens in Magna, West Valley City…can be difficult for any parent to manage.  Andrea Egbert, CSW has developed this “Parenting Cheat Sheet” to help all of us beleaguered parents step back and breathe while we work more effectively with each of our kids.

Improving Parenting Skills in Magna and West Valley

Disciplining children and adolescents can be challenging.  Many parents face the age old parenting question:  How do I discipline my child so a lesson is learned without losing my own temper?  The answer to this question requires love, logic, and creativity. The best options for your family will depend on the personality and age of each child.  We’ve collected some of our favorite parenting and discipline ideas to help you correct your child’s behaviors, stay out of the “bad guy” role, foster learning and development, focus on empowerment, and help make your home become a little more peaceful.

Tip #1

One mom uses this behavior chart to help her children visually see how they are doing.  Each child has his or her name written on a clothes pin which is clipped to the starting square of the chart.  As the day moves the parent moves the child’s pin up or down one square at a time depending on the present behaviors.  Each time the pin is moved parents should explain to the child why their pin is moving up or down.  This explanation part is crucial in helping the child learn to be empowered and positively change their behaviors.  Some parents will add to this method by adding one or two reward squares to the top of the chart for extra good behaviors.  The child can earn extra privileges from the higher squares.

http://www.ourlifegodhands.blogspot.com/2014/02/our-current-discipline-system.html

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Tip #2

Children need to learn to cope with anger and frustration in healthy ways.  One school counselor created this “Chill Out Plan” to help kids and teens deal with anger.  When children are angry and need a time out, give them their “Chill Out Plan” to help them use their time out period constructively as they learn healthy coping skills.

http://www.schcounselorschronicle.com/2011/12/chill-out-plan.html

Tip #3

This silly, but effective method helps children and teens earn technology time.  Focusing on empowerment, and removing the parent from the “bad guy” role, this method helps kids learn that hard work pays off.  Check out this link for a nice blog post back to school drama  http://englandcounseling.org/six-quick-tips-to-make-back-to-school-a-success/

http://veryhilarious.com/parents-in-the-21st-century/

Tip #4

Children are often tattling too much or sometimes perhaps not enough.  It can be difficult for children to understand the balance.  This simple chart can be used to help children understand the difference and learn to use healthy coping skills.  If your child needs help with this one, sit down and go over each point as it applies to their situation.  This will also empower them to use good judgment and coping skills.

http://allthingskatiemarie.blogspot.ca/2012/01/tattle-jar.html

Tip #5

This is an easy way to reinforce a no computer/ no TV punishment, especially if the parent is not home or has to work late.  Remember to let your children or teens know that you keep the key with you, and to focus on earning the technology time back rather than looking for ways to remove the lock.