Is Jennifer Lawrence Really A Porn Star???
Jennifer Lawrence is a wonderfully talented actress, the bombdiggity of film. If you absolutely loved her in the Hunger Games movies…most recently in “Mocking Jay,” this blog post is for You!
Why Salt Lake City Adores Jennifer Lawrence
Jennifer Lawrence is beloved in Magna, West Valley City, and Utah, because of the characters she plays in her movies. She plays the strong female character Katniss Everdeen in the Hunger Games series. She’s smart, talented, great with a bow, and of course very beautiful. Her quick whit and seemingly strong boundaries make her a captivating role model for both young and middle aged women as well. Who can forget her exchanges with President Snow in Catching Fire as they decide the fate of District 12 at her new home. The banter was crisp and the scene tense as Katniss matched whits with this powerful, adult male.
While this scene is captivating, perhaps more captivating indeed is the decisions that Jennifer Lawrence has made on a personal level recently.
Hacked Photos of Hollywood Stars Leaked
Earlier this year, 100 of so of Hollywood’s elite actresses had personal photos first reportedly hacked from I-Cloud and then posted to a shady web site. One of the actresses most impacted by the hack job was Jennifer Lawrence. After the photo’s were posted, Jennifer seemed repulsed and was later interviewed for a piece in Vanity Fair’s September, 2014 issue. Among her key statements, she indicates in Vanity Fair how she felt when she called her father:
“When I have to make that phone call to my dad and tell him what’s happened … I don’t care how much money I get for The Hunger Games,” she says. “I promise you, anybody given the choice of that kind of money or having to make a phone call to tell your dad that something like that has happened, it’s not worth it.”
Further, she states how difficult it was for her to write a statement about the leak soon after the photos were posted:
“Every single thing that I tried to write made me cry or get angry. I started to write an apology, but I don’t have anything to say I’m sorry for. I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
These are poignant, heart-wrenching comments from a young woman who obviously didn’t see this firestorm coming. Arguing whether her relationship was healthy or not is really a moot point. However, it was her comment, that “…either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you,” that I would like to address.
Do Men Have To Look at Porn?
Keying off of Jennifer Lawrence’ statement, it would seem that the common misconception that men must look at porn is true. They’re wired for the visual and that’s just that. Essentially then, to keep a boyfriend inline, a woman must send him provocative, alluring or even nude pictures of herself. Otherwise, he’ll bail. That’s a rather tough perspective to swallow. Over the years I’ve had well meaning yet very exasperated mothers of teen young men, or wives of adult men tell me essentially, “looking at porn is just what men do isn’t it (in Salt Lake City).” Really??? That’s a cop-out…period!
Please know that I’m not the first therapist or media minded writer to blog on this issue. Fight The New Drug posted a blog (aka., an open letter to Jennifer Lawrence) on their web site in October, 2014…which included the following snippet:
“With a society that thinks a woman is only as good as her body, it’s easy to see why you would feel like your boyfriend would turn to porn even when dating a talented and beautiful woman like yourself…think about this question, Jennifer, should any person ever have to feel that they need to give their partner something because if they don’t then their partner will turn away and get it from someone else? Especially when that something is as important in a relationship as sex? We don’t think that’s cool and neither should you.” http://blog.fightthenewdrug.org/
Is Pornography Harmful? Choose Wisely…Your Future Depends on It!
Do men really have to look at porn? Is it just what men do? No!!! My perspective is that in a healthy, couple relationship no woman would like her husband dallying in pornography and believe that it’s is okay. Most women would absolutely not like to share their husband with the many women he sees in pornography. If you agree, and would like additional information, I’ve blogged on this extremely key subject many times before. Please follow this link. http://englandcounseling.org/pornographysexual-addiction-counseling-in-magna/
Looking at pornography is a choice…a very profound choice. Jennifer Lawrence appears to believe that she must provide the choice of way personal pictures to her boyfriend. To the young men and women of the Magna, Tooele and Salt Lake City area, making that choice can have lifelong consequences. The healthy consequence of a wonderful marriage with a caring partner who has eschewed pornography and related behaviors. Or the unhealthy consequence of a marriage that will be rocked by deceit, mistrust and lifelong disconnection. Think about it. Your decision can make or break your future. Please, please, choose very wisely…
Relationship and Marriage expert Michael Boman, LCSW, blogs often on the effects of pornography and sexual addiction on marriages, children and families. I welcome your reaction to this blog and can be reached readily for comment at [email protected]